Found out my bf died in a messed up way!!!!?

Two weeks ago my bf died in a car crash and i was devestated. Me and him are deployed overseas right now. The sad thing is, i was the last person to know. People who were supposed to be my friends "secretly," got together, and made a pact not to tell me. The day he died, I seen two people that knew, and they had a full blown conversation with me, but did not even tell me. One person who was our so called friend went around the entire living area crying to everyone about it, but did not even have the nerve to tell me. When i found out that he died, i found out from a stranger who was gossipping about it. Now my whole world is tormented, and i dont know what to do. At the time I was grieving so hard, it did not dawn on me, but now i realized what they did, and im angry. the day after he died, I talked to someone who has a good relation with the spirtitual side, and she said he did not like the way i found out. I never even told her the story. How can i get over this? I am so angry!!!